Yeah I've seen this problem a lot. I completely agree with this person - we (and I still do it sometimes) tend to put words between the lines that aren't there. But honestly, I think the most prominent issue about this is the fear of invalidation - we were all raised to think that being wrong, failure and such were negative things. And so, subconsciously, we start trying to find any way anyone could hint that these negative things apply to us. Which is exacerbated by people who use heavy sarcasm or other techniques to mean one thing while saying another (which can much too easily become subtle enough to go over people's heads, which makes it so that when they LEARN about it it instils paranoia. People need to be less sensitive and less afraid of not being optimal...