Look, it's hard to find our way. Also we have varying abilities and differing perceptions. Some kids have a learning disability that makes it hard for them to read situations and learn from their peers.

If you are bullied as a kid or a little quirky in elementary school, you might become so defensive that you do not listen to anyone. Your life might be more difficult for you than it could be if you listen to helpful, loving people.

So let's be specific. What are "their" opinions about, and perhaps more importantly, how sturdy is your ego? You can try and change to please people, but unless you wholeheartedly agree with the change, you'll revert back to your preferred state anyway.

For me, I care very much what other people think about any professional work: my teaching or writing -- because other people are my audience and if I can improve from their feedback, I'll gratefully listen to their ideas. Feedback is a gift. Note: I said "listen" - not necessarily act on their ideas.

but because I've been sufficiently loved and appreciated by the world, I can handle varying ideas. I can choose to be with people that seem to care about my feelings. Not everyone has that luxury.

What's the situation, ref, that led to this question. Was the accusation aimed at you or someone you care about?