So I guess the takeaway from this is "Don't be too picky, you'll enjoy being with more people than you actually think".

As an experiment, I updated my OKCupid profile a bit, then ran through my matches and clicked a huge number of them so I would show up as a visitor. I didn't look at profiles, just clicked and closed. 90 minutes later, and I have six views on my profile and one message (EDIT: It was "Your comment made me laugh". It's a start!). I guess the article's author is on to something.

I've been on OKC for years, and being too picky is exactly my problem. Finding matches I'm physically attracted to is easy. Everything else? That's harder. Are they educated enough? Do they have the same interests? The same sense of humor? Too religious? Too anti-religious? Strong political opinions? Do they like to travel? Do they like to cook? Do they have pets? (these last three actually make me less interested in them, believe it or not. I'm weird.)

But the chances of me meeting someone that actually meets all my 'requirements' is slim. I don't think any one thing I'm looking for in a partner is unreasonable, but finding someone with all of them (well, I thought I did last month, but our interest in each other was asymmetrical...)? That's hard.

I don't know where I'm going with this, sorry.