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forwardslash  ·  4651 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Ask Hubski: What's on you're bucket list?
Thanks! Well, I did say they were from her late father, so no I didn't ask him :P My mom was wanting me to ask her mother for her blessing but to be honest I don't like that tradition at all. I'm reminded of a scene from the first episode of Alias where Sydney's boyfriend calls her father to ask her for approval to marry her:

Danny: Sir, I love your daughter and I want to marry her. That's why I'm calling.

Jack: First of all, Danny, the truth is this is just a courtesy call. Like when you say to your neighbor, "We're having a loud party on Saturday night if that's all right with you." What you really mean is, "We're having a loud party on Saturday night."

Perhaps it's just my rebellion against my conservative background, but I want to separate myself as much as possible from traditions that imply that my fiancée is something to be given away. I know that asking them for their blessing isn't necessarily the same thing as asking permission to marry her, it's just something I'm weird about.