Good question, lil. I would say I appear outwardly different in some appreciable ways. I got married and moved to the suburbs, both things I thought I'd never do. (There's a life lesson there about not speaking in absolutes, but that's neither here nor there right now.) Furthermore, I've been promoted at work twice since then, and now make what most people would consider to be a decent salary. By all accounts, I'm what one might consider a respectable member of society--an identity I never thought I'd have and never wanted! (I have a lawn for fuck's sake. I hate lawns. I've never mowed it, in my defense.)

I think when you're married you are forced to give and take some parts of your identity with your spouse, and I think that was one reason that I was so opposed to the idea; I never wanted to relinquish any part of me, as I viewed a strong sense of self as being central to maintaining independence and freedom. However, I've come to understand that in the ideal circumstance, we stand to gain a lot more than we lose when we have a true partner. In that sense, I don't think that my identity could be fully appreciated without considering my wife a part of it.

All that said, I don't feel like a different person, although I feel like a more complete person, a more mature and open-minded person. I'm not sure these things are really what make up one's identity though. But I did switch to #50, so I suppose I am pretty different.