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I think the people who say "stop comparing yourself to others" know that too. As far as I can tell, what they mean by "stop comparing yourself to others" is "stop determining your worth by how much you compare to others". While other people may do that, doing it to yourself is worse. Advice like "stop comparing yourself to others" is akin to setting kids up for failure -- throughout life you will be compared with others in a practical sense (jobs, school, society, even potential mates) and you've got to learn the brain trick of accepting that while simultaneously realizing that there's not always shame in being judged "less."