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camarillobrillo  ·  3715 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: At Group Sex Parties, Strict Rules Make for Safe Spaces

    Casual sex for unity! Fuck a stranger for freedom!

What's wrong with that?

Thanks for not shitting everywhere. You write your points well Klein and you sound like you've forgotten more than I've lived but you're thinking very black and white here.

    The folx at these clubs, in these circles, running in these cliques?

    - integrate poorly with society

    - can't get laid without some bizarro ritual like a swingers' club

    - suck at making friends

    - view the "external world" as uniformly hostile

Except

    It's not anonymous. And you’re not necessarily going to get laid. You can go and just have fun and hang out. You don’t have to have sex. In fact, most of them are coming for the community.

Sure, it's not Chuck E Cheese but it's not exactly a porno theater either. How are the people in this club any different from you and me? The real point of these events seem to be more about free expression than free fucking. The sex seems almost secondary to the comfortable atmosphere these people are seeking to indulge a thing they love. It's no more "us" versus "them" than a book club, or an AA meeting, or the Girl Scouts. It's just regular folx discussing what matters most to them in a relaxed, friendly setting. The community is emphasized, the fucking is optional.

While I've never gotten an invitation, I can say I'd jump at the opportunity. What faults could these people possibly have to hide?