I want to preserve some degree of anonymity, so I will simply say that I'm in residency. My perspective has absolutely changed over time. I think that sort of change is inevitable if you pay attention as a medical trainee. The clinical years of medical school were, to say the least, an eye-opening experience. Medicine lost its mystique and prestige. Instead, it was replaced with an understanding that makes medicine much less scientific, precise, and - dare I say it - helpful than I thought beforehand. I still believe in medicine as an institution and believe that, ultimately, we do a bunch of good, but seeing how the sausage is made, so to speak, fundamentally changed how I understand what being a physician is and how we practice in this crazy ass system of healthcare. What field is your wife in?