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_refugee_  ·  3944 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning, by Haruki Murakami

    A lot of those are bullshit. Actually, most of those are bullshit. Perhaps all of them.

Have you not watched Seinfeld? Because if you had, you'd understand that that was exactly the point I was trying to make. Seinfeld is notoriously picky and has broken up with girls because of, say, the sound of their voice or the way they laugh. Moreover, I posit that they're only bullshit inasmuch as I haven't met someone whose good traits would overpower these perceived negative traits(except for the kid thing - plus, you don't know how bad his teeth were! - possibly further evidence I am Seinfeld).

As for the number of people you've met that you'd consider dating, well, that's cool and good for you? I wasn't leveraging my accusation, as you could term it, at anyone specifically on Hubski. I've seen it happen in real life and trust me, you can tell when reasons move from the "flippantly spurious" to the "downright ridiculous category." Stuff like "I'm not interested in even giving him my phone number because he has a buzz cut and from that alone I'm going to decide he's in the military and I have made a completely arbitrary decision not to date anyone who's ever been in the military, ever" or "I only want to date lawyers because I want to date people who have been to grad school" or "I'm not comfortable dating anyone who's not my skin tone" (which by the way is blatant racism; sure you're allowed to have preferences but if those are based solely on race, it's still racism).

Well then good. Go find thyself both. You're allowed to want what you want and it's also allowed to be different than what I want.