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Kafke  ·  3947 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning, by Haruki Murakami

    Sometimes in a restaurant I’ll catch myself staring at the girl at the next table to mine because I like the shape of her nose.

I do this for everyone. I like looking at noses. Sue me.

But more honestly, a "soulmate" is a stupid concept. Mainly because people generally fall under a few different "types" and those types can be matched.

That said, I was once asked "what do I look for in a girl/woman". I didn't know. Hadn't thought about it. So over the next few years I spent carefully figuring out what I liked in a person. What brought me joy. Etc.

I'm close to finishing what I think of as my "100% Girl". Personality, appearance, hobbies, etc. It's much more than what the article states. Looks aren't everything.

But I could easily list trait after trait on who I'm looking for. And I've found some people that are close in one way or the other. And all I have to really do while looking for a mate is basically "tick boxes".

As much as I am a believer in fate and determinism. A soul mate is a ridiculous concept. An "ideal" mate is not. And honestly, it baffles me that people get into relationships that they know won't work out. Unless they seriously don't know what type of people they are compatible with or want to be in a relationship with...