You're Jerry Seinfeld. It's okay. I'm Jerry Seinfeld too. Reasons I have decided not to date people include: "I don't like his teeth;" "he lives too far away;" "we work at the same place;" "he works somewhere I'd have to see him every day/it would ruin [x place] for me;" "He hasn't dated enough people;" "not good enough in bed;" "seems too into me;" "has a kid;" "can't spell;" "unibrow;" "vegan;" and so on. It's okay to be picky. Just don't let your pickiness become "artificial structures devised not beacuse you have a reason for them, but because you are afraid of dating, and so use fake "standards" in order to ensure everyone who approaches you is immediately ineligible." Sometimes it really IS the little reasons. Sometimes you really just can't stand their hair or their spelling. Sometimes you're not willing to put in the effort that would be needed in order to fix the problem ("not good enough in bed") for instance. It's okay to be picky. Just recognize you're narrowing the field (a necessary thing) and ensure you don't narrow it too much, or for artificial reasons. I have always said that I want is not a significant other, but a Partner In Crime. Someone who will do all the crazy shenanigans I want to do with me - someone who will be down for all my hare-brained ideas.