I've often wondered if I'm any more shallow than most other people. Sometimes I'll find myself looking at or talking to someone and thinking something like, "she's so pretty . . . except when she smiles" or, "I'd love to continue this conversation, but I don't like your voice." I've even caught myself thinking, "I don't want to find out what she's like in bed, because I don't think I could bear the disappointment if it's no good through no fault of my own" by which, I don't mean to imply that I am or that I think I'm the greatest lover ever, or that I'm able to elicit the best response with a given woman, but you know, sometimes there's that high level of mutual attraction and then for whatever reason it just doesn't click.

I don't know where I stand on the whole soulmate thing. What I do know, is that sometimes you find someone and it's like you've already known each other for a long time and that the best times are in the mail. I also think that can be a little dangerous as it's easy to get that false sense of security that allows each person to get complacent and then wake up one day wondering why things aren't going as well as they used to. I guess my idea of a soulmate is more akin to finding a good collaborator, in that each recognizes that there's work to be done and is willing to trust the other one to be accountable for their part, even if there's no hard accounting.