First I write.

Second I drink.

Third, and only very rarely, but unfortunately for me recently, I remind myself of all the reasons revenge does not work.

Hey, not-Pablo! Do you know what you get when you slash a bitch's tires?

You get to buy her new tires. Not my experience, but my brother's; he had a girlfriend where really the choice they had made to be in a relationship at all was questionable. Her nickname was Trashley, because she liked to get trashed. My brother, by the way, is not legally allowed to drive due to DUIs and some other charges. So, great pair. Anyway, I think he cheated on her and she cheated on him and they ended up in a great big flaming drunken altercation one night. He decided to pour two beers on her bed and slashed 3 out of her 4 tires.

Well, any reasonable person and many unreasonable people are going to see their car with fucked tires and think "Well damn. I can't really afford new tires. How do I make this person pay for this?"

And to be honest, the answer is simple. It is called the legal system. Pretty much anyone can avail themselves of retribution for actual physical harm to objects or persons, with one phone call to the police department. So she called them and long story short, his act of revenge ended up gaining her 4 new tires.

Unfortunately, I know for a fact that a certain person I am mad at would absolutely lawyer up if I punched them, no matter how merited I may feel that action would be. No matter her apology texts and statements that "she should cut off her nose and eat it" and I should "fuck her boyfriend and send her the video so that she would hurt too" or that she is "worse than shit." Regardless of all that she's said, I know that I am powerless against the law should she and her parents choose to bring in the law if I made the interaction physical. And so I do not and cannot.

So when I'm really pissed, I remind myself that the only option for revenge is happiness/a good life/pouring all my energy back into improving myself. It can be hard at times and I have choice words I want to say to this person the next time I see her. But thankfully, no one can arrest me for telling her I can't hear her through all the dicks in her mouth.

Honestly, the other day I was thinking about asking Hubski to remind me why revenge is never good, but we had kind of talked about it in another thread and to be honest I knew why - I just didn't want to acknowledge it, I guess. I was further down the upset scale and having difficulty talking myself down.

In those circumstances, the best choice is inaction, or at least, not doing whatever grand revenge idea you are thinking of immediately. Put it on the ice. Hopefully by the time you get back to it you will have cooled off and will be able to see revenge for the bad idea it is.