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Meriadoc  ·  4043 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Rape Is Caused by Rapists, Not by Underage Drinking

Because the problem isn't walking around late at night in dark allies where shadowy men crawl out and rape you, the problem is that 80% of rapes are caused by something the victim knows intimately. The problem is that this is not the perception because how society shows rapists as shadowy men. The problem is that if a girl is raped while drunk it becomes her fault, but if a man is drunk and rapes someone it becomes an excuse. The problem is that our society focuses on violent rape and ignores the coercion rape, the shaming rape, and pretends that if she didn't fight violently, or didn't know she was being raped, that she wasn't.

The problem is that women still have to be told to not go our late and should limit their social lives because there's a possibility of rape. That's addressing the effect, not the cause. If women stopped wearing shorts and being out at 2 AM, do you know what would happen to the rape statistics? They'd be the same.